DEARFUTUREWIFE™

You don’t have to be with someone who has a child.

You give me special consideration and don’t diminish my consideration for you being involved in my life.

Thank you for being patient.

Thank you for waiting your turn.

Your turn to be number one in my life.

I appreciate and notice your sacrifices!

Before we dated you saw me love my child and thought it was attractive.

You don’t allow the attraction of me being an involved parent turn into the dissatisfaction of me being an inconsistent and unavailable partner.

The dissatisfaction of putting you second doesn’t deter you.

It’s easy to walk away because my initial commitment of being your lover is trumped by my commitment to being a committed father.

Being an involved parent is sexy until I am not available.

It’s adorable seeing me put my child first until you realize you come second.

The attention to my birthed responsibility is attractive until you’re questioning my attraction to you.

You didn’t expect to receive my unconditional heart at “hello” or even at “I love you”

Understanding that even when we plan to be together on my off weekend that there is a chance our plans may be scrapped.

You hold your breath for the chance to breathe freely with us.

The sigh of relief of having me all to yourself.

But understanding I have a different love, not comparable, when I’m with you and will grow far beyond you becoming Mrs. Williams.

You see consistent glimpses of me putting you first when we are together and you appreciate that.

You consider that every time I make a choice to be with you, I make a choice to leave him.

You understand the importance of Fatherhood.

You don’t compare our relationship to the relationship I have with my son.

You don’t look at pictures of us (me and my child) online and expect pictures of us online.

You don’t compete with him for time and attention.

You don’t complain about not getting enough time from me.

You see my schedule and say: “I’m patient and you’re worth it“.

That does not mean you are waiting for me.

It means you are continuing your life and fitting me in as I do you.

We schedule, we plan, and we work at us because we are worth it.

And I will always treasure you for that.

Dear Future Wife, I thank you again for not letting your attraction to ME in the position of an involved parent turn into dissatisfaction of WE as a committed partner.