10 Ways To Keep The Fire Alive in a Relationship

The majority of us have been there. Relationships tend the get a bit unstable. Suddenly, it feels as if the two of you are stuck in a rut. Insecurities kick in and before you know it, you’re pretty much running for the door.

There is always hope.

Here are a few things to remember when your relationship has hit a metaphorical roadblock:

1.Don’t Take it Personal

Most fights stem from problems that have absolutely nothing to do with the relationship.

Your lover may have been having a bad day. Therefore, it might be best to try to either cheer him/her up or steer clear.

2. Indulge in Conversation

Many couples tend to lack casual conversation. Making a point occasionally talk to each other will eventually open doors for deeper conversation.

We’ve all heard the saying “Communication is key.” Do not force communication with negative context. Instead, try to talk about topics that are interesting or have fun and joke around.

3. Don’t Forget to Kiss Each Other Goodbye

Simple things like a peck on the cheek, hugging and holding hands mean more than you know. If you forget about them, you risk turning these typical romantic gestures into awkward and uncomfortable moments.

4. Put Effort in Spending Time Together

I am not referring to daily routines where you share a couch as you watch TV without making eye contact. We can easily get lost in our endless cycles.

Plan ahead. Try new things, go out on date or have a candle light dinner. Make sure it is an activity you both agree on to make it as enjoyable as possible.

5. Don’t Let Go… of Yourself

Even though you are busy and have a ton of errands to get done, you should not forget about yourself. Take care and eat healthy. Good hygiene should NOT be thrown out the window just because you’re not on the market anymore.

When I go on dates with my husband, I like to make sure that I put SOME effort in my appearance. It’s another form of appreciation for him because he is the only one I am trying to impress. Of ‘course I cannot do this everyday, but when I can – I definitely will.

6. Let’s Talk About Sex

Personally, I do not understand only being intimate on special occasions. I do not recall this being a chore. Depriving your significant other of sexual intimacy not only questions your relationship as a whole, but also can be very cruel. Dry spells are not good for anybody.

If there is no time, you make time. Be spontaneous.

7. Think About the Good Times

Dwelling on your bitter past forces you into anger and sadness. This definitely does more damage than it does good.

What about when you first started dating — and the excitement that cam along with it? How about when you first realized that you love this person? Think positive.

8. Forgive and Forget

I know it’s easier said than done, but honestly, if you are in this relationship until the end, you NEED to do this. Harboring resentment does not leave you any room for improvement.

Accept what has happened and keep moving forward.

9. Have Some Fun

Do the two of you share any hobbies? If yes, then that’s perfect! ‘Couples that play together: stay together!’ Whether it is sports, games, dancing or even participating in book clubs – sharing an activity you can enjoy together strengthens your bond in general.

10. Say “I LOVE YOU”

Even though you may THINK this is common sense, not showing appreciation can easily make your lover feel like you have taken him or her for granted.

You don’t have to constantly keep reminding them of your love, but you should verbally let them know how much you love and adore them from time to time.