How do I keep strong in front of a narcissist?

Bassel Chibani
Sep 4, 2018 · 2 min read

This is bad.

How to keep strong in front of that person who used you? Lied at you? Cheated on you?

I've been here on quora for almost a year and there is not a single one of us who had not been lied at, used, cheated on, and fucked up, treated badly, neglected, abused, stolen, drained, taken for granted, and enmeshed.

Maybe if you saw the other way around :

From where did the fucking abuser had the balls to look me in the eye after what he had done? From what store?. HA?

IT’S ABOUT YOU NOW.

We have to work on our mindset, we're the good guys and they are the villains, those who did that to us should be ashamed of themselves, and instead of looking us in the eye, they must put their head in the sand.

The abuser still have the power over you, and this is why you're asking this question:

Ask your self, what have had you done rather than grieving? You think it's enough?

Life is not primarily a quest of pleasure, as Sigmund Freud believed, or a quest of power as Alfred alder taught, but a quest for meaning, the greatest task for any person is to find a meaning in his or her life. Victor Frankl saw the three possible sources of meaning: in work(doing something significant) in love (caring for another person), and in courage during the difficult times. Suffering in and off is meaningless, we give our suffering meaning by the way we respond to it,(Harold Kushner).

If I were you I would worry more how the narcissist will keep strong in front of me.

Back to the question: stay strong in your soul, life is a victory within strong people's souls.

“The world breaks everyone, and afterwards, some are strong at the broken places”.

I know you're still traumatized, and it's all in your head, it's okay to feel not okay, break it, do something about it and do not hide…

And trust me when you're done from this shit, your abuser should be running away from you.

Bassel chibani.

Bassel Chibani

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I write about narcissism, I am not a big fan of psychology.

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