Bassel Chibani
Sep 4, 2018 · 2 min read

How does a healthy person move forward after narcissistic abuse?


the 10 commandments

I can't tell you, because it's a journey, and each one of us has his own journey. But I can tell you what is waiting for you, what's ahead.

And it's okay……….

1-It doesn't matter whether if you were discarded, or you decided to leave, it's the same, and it's hard to see any emotional gain here.

2-you don't move forward, cuz you don't know where you are and who you are….. So you better stay where you are.

3-accept your emotions as they are, feel your feelings …. So what? Anxiety? It's not lethal…. People at Hospitals are fighting HIV.

4-flashbacks and anger? Yaa true, hit the wall, no one will judge you, it's only a wall.

5-feeling vindictive? You wish him-her dead? Lol yeah, the earth is a better place without them.

6-you're afraid of loneliness? Okay reach out for people, we all did and it's okay. Don't be shy.

7-you're not a disordered person, what you're feeling now and what happened, happened because you can feel, you can bond, and you can get hurt. (it's pretty human, enjoy it)

8-you hate your life? Ya, this the thing, your life is your responsibility now, you try to make it better, cuz no one will.

9-you're doing a great job, literally great job, decades of abuse, poured from generation to the next, and it all had come to you to stop it “make your empath grand grandparents proud”

10-you're missing your ex? Nah you don't wanna go there, he's an asshole, he's gonna make it worse even.

Back to the question:

Its okay if you're not feeling okay….

Healing is not done by quick moves and distractions, or by running away from pain, healing is done by facing your fears, sitting with your fears, painting them, laughing at them, your fear will be one day your vanguard of wisdom.

You will love it.

Bassel Chibani.

Bassel Chibani

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I write about narcissism, I am not a big fan of psychology.

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