Bassel Chibani
Sep 6, 2018 · 2 min read

If Narcissists need people to mirror back to them admiration (his supply to feed his fragile ego), then why do they also project themselves on others? How does that work?
If you only knew the neurological fucking disaster inside his head.


Narcissists have no core, as a child who couldn't catch emotional cues like everyone else. the false self is formed hungry for attention, validation, and love. This facade they wore it, long ago, and forgot about it till they forget who they really are.

This facade has a role.

Get all the attention needed
Get all the validation needed
Get all the needs of superiority needed to cover up their low self-esteem
To prove they are better and always right
To escape any responsibility
To take it all and give nothing back
To play the victim and charity lovers
To fake their goodness
To love to bomb you as the worst kind of passive aggressiveness ever.
This technique is done by mirroring you, copying you, feeding on your emotions, but sooner you will be drained as a willing participant giving it all and taking nothing back, by the time their abuse will escalate and their mask will slip away.

They will mirror your Misery “This is something they can not tolerate, they can not understand” mirroring is natural in them.

How many of you guys saw the narcissist fleeing away when your ill or vulnerable?

Weird ha?

Yes, cuz now he's mirroring your sadness and misery, which he cannot tolerate, he's that child with burdens, who can not tolerate it, he's not made for that, it's not his best games to do, he's only there to take, but narcissism spikes when he has to return something back And he fails.

So, what will happen next is projection: projecting all his insecurities on you as he's weaker than resolving the negative emotions he absorbed from you.

From the outside, you will see tantrums and projections, but from the inside “it's a small kid stuck in his old pattern of response” the fight response.

Back to the question: I was raised by a narc, I lived with them, had food with them, had a life with them, and I know more about them.

And they don't bother me anymore. Am giving them the back of my ass, Mirror that.

Thank you for A2A, hope that was helpful.

Bassel Chibani.

Bassel Chibani

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I write about narcissism, I am not a big fan of psychology.