Bassel Chibani
Sep 6, 2018 · 3 min read

What happens when the empath leaves/abandon their narcissist relationship first?
It's only the beginning.


When an empath falls in love with a narc, empath falls so deeply that narcs become their religion.

It's like a love suicide you go into it but you're not the one who is coming back, who’s coming back is someone else. When an empath loves deeply the boundaries disappear, they become so deeply connected they marvel in the ecstacy that never awakes them, but sometimes it ends regardless of who was the first.

The love goes away regardless of who initiated it first and that thing that was saving you is crucifying you now.

All the empath has after that is the (why)question, and they do not know who they are anymore. No one knows how love comes but empath knows that when it's gone it hurts. Hearts become fragile, incomplete and when they break they heal, but never the same way again.

Heartbreak of empath is full blown announcement of love: emotionally its impossible to see any gain here, so its better to step back, cry, mourn, but heal. That huge desire inside to connect it's lost its okay if they cried.

Don't push it hard to heal it takes time, to heal it will feel like your betraying your self as the one you loved was included as you. To heal is like to push out someone who was already there this is why you feel hate, but that hate is not really what is there, its the hurt when some part of you died that day, something is missing and you mourn to be whole again. Healing does not come with quick moves and distractions.

Be present with your pain as an empath, and with people who be present with your pain as it's the only way outside. By being unconditional with the pain you will see your self clearly and see the patterns that keep on repeating in your life because they are unresolved wounds from your childhood, ones you never know you had, and its only by knowing that they are, so you can heal them.

You will see what you want and what your needs are, you will start to design your life and look for what is real about you. You will create a new world around you. This is the re-birth of an empath and it feels like brand new.

Small things you do will makes a big difference , small changes help, change the food you eat, change your way to work, do things you've never done before and you stopped doing long ago, say hello to strangers, take risks and they will put you in better positions and you will feel energy vibrating again.

Empath want closure : so (why) matters,

After gathering everything up and and putting puzzle pieces in place, empath will find that the (why ) had gone and and replaced by everything experienced was meant to lead into something new.

Broken heart is showing what is real about empath, and those who can't feel the heartbreak can't not see their truth. Heartbreak for an empath look like destroying the self esteem but knowing what is real about them selfs, wants, needs, desires, will lead to a genuine self esteem.

Empath will start to focus on things that are right about them selfs, how good, how Beautifull, and they will start to developed their focus that will support them, that anger and tension now will go less and lead to new directions and will grip finally to relax.

Love is a gift.

Heartbreak of an empath is not the end

It's only the beginning. Regardless of whom left first leaving or discard, its all the same.

Empath will walk through this and will learn.

Bassel Chibani.

Bassel Chibani

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I write about narcissism, I am not a big fan of psychology.