What is the hardest part about getting over a relationship with a narcissist?
The escalation of bullshit,
There is no easy part while being with a narcissist, nothing really. And the devaluation silent pain that crawls into your genes is something insidious, and the grand finale is the discard, what a piece of art.
Getting over a relationship with a narcissist reveals many challenges where each and every one of-each unleashed realities is painful as much as the other.
I will list them in order of escalation :
First, you will realize that nothing was real, and it was a fake,fake, fake,fake,fake,fake, fake, fake.
Then you will realize that you had been used like an old tissue and someone wiped his ass out and walked away like this.
Then you will deal with the PTSD's, pain, trauma bonds, anger, hurt, humiliation, and then you have to climb a high hill called (no contact) one of the hardest hills ever for some.
Then when you will research narcissism and dig deep to learn, and you may end up with a degree in psychology.
After that, someone will tell you that you may have to look for narcissists in your own family line and realize that you were a neglected or abused child by your mom or dad.
Then you will get back to the narc to deal with his hoovering and smear campaign.
After that you will wake up someday to find out that your days were stolen, you're aging, you’re having skin problems and wrinkles, you have fewer chances to love again, and you wasted a life for nothing.
Dealing with family and friends to convince them that he or she is toxic and a liar or an abusive butthole.
Maybe you will have trust issues too.
Some of us had real financial troubles too because we were stolen.
For many who have kids with narcs, we will have to come up with something genius and zen to maintain the minimal healthy contact if he/she had to.
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The hardest part about getting over a relationship with a narcissist is that the narcissist is somewhere out there doing the same bullshit all over again playing the same old tape and pretending happiness, just like a robot, no emotions, no heart, no feelings, no nothing.
And you are not allowed to speak and spell your pain out because we live in a civilized world and you should shut up or else his/her assness will be offended and how cruel you are to offend a wounded individual with a horrible childhood.
Back to the questions: one of the hardest thing in getting over a relationship with a narcissist is that you are not the same person you used to be before the abuse and you will never be the same again.
Embrace your new self, it's only an expanded version.
Bassel Chibani.
