Bassel Chibani
Sep 7, 2018 · 2 min read

What makes a narcissistic person hate someone?


They need to hate and need to be hated.

It's a defensive mechanism against the false hope of ever being loved.

“When you tell a child you're not lovable, for him it means that he can never be loved, he will constantly feel punished, abused, degraded, demeaned, abused”.The hate is a validation for this child to justify his feelings, he's not loved, so he better be hated.

A Narcissist is the adult version of this abused child, that kept on saying to himself :

“if I am not loved, them I am hated”

The need to hate, and the need to be hated.

………… Love and hate, hate and love………..

And he who loves to be hated hates to be loved and fears intimacy.

“Narcissists hate mostly those who they claim to love.

In other words you, You are the reason behind that hate. Yes, you….

Of course, narcissists care less about your well being and your emotions but they are heavily reliant on you for their emotional support, input, and reflection for this inflated false self, their But hate, in general, is an emotion, experiential state. for a narcissist hate is not qualified as an emotion, it's more like an obstacle, a frustration, and it should be removed, it's a transformation of resentments stimulated by external events like narcissistic supply” by other words you….

The fact of narcissist is so dependable on you when expressing depression and elation is ludicrous and funny, because they will fuck your life literally they will fuck it, imagine someone will feed on you to break his loneliness, they will feed on you to feel superior over you, they will hate themselves as their grandiose thinking will bring them shame that they're dependable on you as an insect or bug or a tool or stupid or ugly or, or, or, or…. And for this you will be hated.

Cuz you are the source of frustration. And you should be removed.

Back to the question: What makes a narcissistic person hate someone?

This inflated self-image is anything but fiction, and it's a disaster, they need to hate you for passive aggressiveness validation, they need to be hate to prove they are victims and rendered as special misunderstood, unique, and rare. They need to hate you just for hate, to reassure their victimhood, or simply cuz a reminder on how weak they are cuz they needed you so much.

Fuck this bullshit it brought me a headache just thinking of it, and guess what, Yao all were inside it. Go light candles and thank God you're out, safe,and sound.

Bassel Chibani.

Bassel Chibani

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I write about narcissism, I am not a big fan of psychology.