When narcissists lose their spouse, do they feel that they have lost a good source of devalued supply, and why is a devalued source so important to a narcissist?
It’s their cycle, here’s a sweet reminder of how they do it.
1-mirroring you or love bombing you
which is a kind of passive aggressiveness.
2-Building tension :
“suggestions for improvement”. Criticism. Public humiliation.Isolation.
3-More claws in your skin:
More manipulation more lies telling, not taking responsibility for any actions.they might Threaten you to leave. You will feel the No empathy and lots of cruelty. Silent treatment as punishment, Gaslighting, and you are holding the popcorn with butter and just watching….
4-Calm and peace again
Fake apologies, fake am sorry, fake forgive me or May pretend the abuse did not happen, With some shitty flowers and a greeting card with a cheesy quote from Google.
5-the “let's do it again phase”
since you're breathing, alive and kicking, sounds like you can take more of their shit, so why not, get a ticket for 1-2-3-4 tour.
Back to the question:
why is a devalued source so important to a narcissist?
The need to be in control:
Simply its part of their cycle, this is all that they got to overpower you, bringing peace, after devaluation, till you're a slave, under control, and a puppet as they are so very sensitive to your subtle signals when you're criticizing them and calling them out for their bullshit.
When narcissists lose their spouse, do they feel that they have lost a good source of devalued supply?
Yes, cuz you can entertain and please, you can boost and cheer them up, even if they secretly replaced you by a primary supply am sure they will find you a job. Don't worry about that.
Unemployment all over the world is 30% combined unemployment and underemployment, it's only the narcs who can find you a job always no matter how the economy is running low. Amazing guys really.
Bassel Chibani.
