Nice post. Lots to think about. We are similar in some ways, and not in others. It is always good to get new perspectives. I am in the south but not a person of color, I am the mom of a non-binary trans atheist who has extreme social anxiety but who would like to be part of a social group (you might see the problem there). I too would like to be part of a group but atheist groups are problematic for me because the ones I’ve tried are so hateful toward believers, and I want no part of that. I wish you the best in your living and learning.