Relationships, Breakups, and Changing the “We” to “I”

In going through a breakup, no matter how long you were together, there are two must-haves to move on. Friends and/or an incredible support system and a positive outlook. There’s a third optional-have, that supports number two, and that is literature.

When you have an incredible group of friends, a close confidante, a trusted therapist, or anyone you can talk to that allows you to voice your thoughts, without a fear of being judged, can really make that breakup seem like something not so major. You’re able to express your worries about what the future holds and really dive into what that means for you. Especially when that friend responds with thoughtful advice, or just another round at the bar. You know they heard you and are there for you, no matter what. (pets also make incredible listeners)

A breakup can really make you doubt everything about yourself. Whether you’re good enough for anyone, including yourself. Some people hit rock bottom and turn to other outlets during a split that might not be the best course. No matter where you fall, in order to dig yourself out and move on, you must have a positive outlook. You must be able to look at yourself in the mirror and say that you are amazing, beautiful, and worth it. This absolutely takes work, and sometimes you won’t feel like it, but it pays off. Just like going to the gym, you don’t want to but you know the outcome is going to be incredible.

In order to gain that positive outlook, you might need to work on things about yourself. Maybe your habits, your attitude, or just your cooking skills. There are so many self-help books out there now that picking just one off the shelf will most certainly hold a piece of information that you can apply. Something that will help you focus on what’s really important…you. Something that will help you become the absolute best version of yourself. Something that will help you move on. (audiobooks are a great alternative)

No matter if you’re breaking up, going through a separation or divorce, or are just down in the dumps. Using these three pieces of advice will certainly provide some direction for you and will (hopefully) put you on the path of self-acceptance and self-love.