Some Thoughts On Success

Since coming back for the Spring semester I’ve been having a lot of thoughts about my future, my life, relationships that I have, etc and to be honest, a lot of the thoughts I had made me feel pretty bad, I thought it might be time for a reality check.

I go to a Big Ten University and currently I’m studying Journalism with a minor in Entrepreneurship and Innovation. I’ve decided to do this in the hopes of being a freelance writer that being said that probably means I won’t make a TON of money a situation almost every artist finds themselves in at some point.

My partner as well as some of the coolest people in my life, is planning on going to a technical school or has attended a community college. This is where I started having trouble. My partner is a big older than me and for whatever reason I’ve got it in my head that we would never be successful if he didn’t start something right now. This is a ridiculous and hypocritical thought for many reasons:

  1. I’m not done with college yet.
  2. I have no idea where life will take me and what success I will have.
  3. Right now plenty of people are either not in school because they can’t afford it, don’t know what they want to do, it just isn’t for them, etc. People go back to school or start school late for all different kind of reasons now.

I got to thinking about about this and I realized that this stressful, superior mindset has probably cost me some great relationships and experiences, because I get into the habit of dropping people who I think are no good to me which is terrible.

Ricky is very good to me; we talk, we get along, he takes good care of me, he’s supportive and helpful and probably most importantly…he challenges me and the way that I think and pushes my patient to the absolute end sometimes. And I think that’s great, some would say that this is the kind of thing that’s required for personal growth. I’m happy.

I’m encountering this difference of power with a lot of my professors right now, it gives me hope and I think it’s important. They’re constantly reminding me that sometimes people have different goals than you do, it doesn’t make them bad or less than or lazy; in fact, remember that some people only want to get by and as long as he’s striving for something that’s better than nothing. Also, we’re young and I need to give things time to work out, it isn’t like nothing is being done in the meantime.

So, I got to thinking about people I know who are successful..they have the worst relationships with their family, romantically, at work, etc. And so I think, success for me just means being happy and doing something I love, in this case writing and being challenged and supported by the people around me.

I’m already there.

Originally published at on January 14, 2016.