Thanks for the tips Dr. C! I make lists and combine that with Google calendar to make time slots for everything in my day. My wife (who is not a list maker) always make little comments sarcastically like “oh I see white spots on your calendar, you better fill it with something.” Because for me I even schedule in time for her. Not because I can’t remember to spend time with my own wife but so that I do not create todo lists, and errands for the day that are too ambitious. I used to overload my brain and my day with long todo lists and reminders. I’d sometimes just lay on the couch when I got home from work, knowing I had tons of stuff to do, but I would be too overwhelmed/depresses/anxious to look at any of it in the face. So my breakthrough was actually time boxing things realistically so I wouldn’t set myself up for failure.