You don’t need to suffer from a mental illness to talk to a Counsellor
Humans thrive on community, on fellowship, on companionship and for some, when this is lacking, it affects their psychology. This MAY be because there is not as much room for expression and interactions, for bouncing back ideas, for reassurance (especially when the mind begins to play tricks and you start having difficulty distinguishing between reality and fiction). As a result, they may begin to get in their own heads, over-think things and make bad permanent decisions on temporary emotions, or they may be living based on distorted perceptions because the “community” is not there to steer them back to alignment.
You would think that with more convenience at our disposal, we would be less stressed. Ironically, the lesser the challenges or the lack thereof in convenience, the more we battle with certain negative effects like isolation which may lead to some form of anxiety or depression and physiological changes too from inactivity like lethargy, type 2 diabetes, bad posture or sleep problems. Some people need to realign their mental processes to be able to cope in today’s world, to find meaning to their lives, to put in more effort to achieving their goals or even simply to create goals.
Every day, more reasons to isolate ourselves from each other pop up. Either it’s social distancing, insecurity (especially in Nigeria), door-to-door delivery of any and every thing, online fellowships, online meetings and so on.
Letting out bottled up emotions is a healthy thing to do and that hasn’t changed, even in today’s world. Talking to a professional Counsellor has never been more important. You might argue that talking to a friend is equally therapeutic and soothing but one major difference is that your friend may not be mentally equipped to handle the difficulty you’re experiencing compared to the way someone who has studied how the brain works, who understands personality types, who is aware of mental disorders and techniques for promoting mental well being would. Also, talking to a friend may calm you down in the moment but you may not get to the root of what is happening to you.
Therapy helps keep you less antsy and challenges your faulty perception on reality.
Some people wonder why there is an increasing demand for mental health workers. It is my opinion that one of the many reasons would be because there is more isolation and less physical interactions, so people need to actively find that interaction to work through everyday difficulties and more.
Another crucial area where counselling becomes important is the aspect of dealing with trauma, chronic stress and adversaries. A lot of people have not realised that their personalities are moulded by their experiences from childhood, background and challenges. When there is some form of trauma from childhood or a more recent past, it can leave an emotional wound that negatively affects your decision making in the present. (This is a vast topic in itself). You may need therapy to safely work through these effects and heal from them.
I believe psychoeducation on why therapy/ counselling is important needs to continually be reiterated.
It’s 3 a.m right now and this popped into my head and I decided to pen it down while it was fresh and post it.
Please leave a comment, I’m always open to learning new angles to a topic.