I married a mama’s boy!

Becca Jenne
Aug 28, 2017 · 2 min read

When you’re dating a man, and he’s kind to his mother, most girls melt, I’m No exception, I did too. But now after we are married, I see a problem. No it’s not bad to respect your mom, I have massive respect for my mom, and love her to death. But respect isn’t the issue, mama’s boys take it beyond respect. They will do anything to make their moms happy whether or not it makes their wives happy. I am in one such situation. He is so ready to make his mom happy that I am a second thought, if I even make the list. It’s difficult being married to a mama’s boy, for his loyalty does not lay with his wife. A mans loyalties are with his wife and kids, a boys loyalties are with his mom. The previous statement was a harsh one, but it’s still true.

I have a friend (who is awesome) and is taking care of his mom, due to her health difficulties. I don’t deem him as a mama’s boy, he’s a man taking care of his mom. And I would be there to take care of my mom if she needed me. I’m not saying write off your moms the second you get married or get into a relationship, no, not at all. But just know where your loyalties are at the end of every day. Is it with your mom, or is it with the person you vowed Your life too? My choice is simple, my loyalties are with my husband, I respect my parents and love them, but I chose to marry my husband, so I want to make a life with him. However making a life with someone is difficult when the loyalties are split, I can be loyal all I want and it wont add up to a hill of beans if his loyalties are not with me.

Marriage is about two people working together, working out their issues, compromising on some things, agreeing completely on some other things, taking one problem at a time and working through it together. Marriage only works with two committed people, it doesn’t work with three, adding a parent where they don’t belong leads to strain and stress in the relationship.

So I guess today’s short little post is about knowing where your loyalties are. If you doubt your boyfriends or girlfriends loyalties perhaps you should take a step back and rethink things. Be loyal to your husband or wife, don’t be running to mommy and daddy every time your upset, that will just cause problems later.

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Becca Jenne

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I am a musician, a song writer, a coffeeholic, a florist, a home maker, a wife, and artist. now it just sounds like I'm bragging. I might be a little. :-)

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