Let’s talk about Swearing

Becca Jenne
Jul 10, 2017 · 3 min read

Today you can’t go anywhere without hearing ‘blankety blank blank blank blank!’ the grocery store, the bank, on the radio, the tv, the internet, schools, basically no where is safe from this verbal cancer that has taken over the nation. But why?

When you break it down it comes to a lack of respect, a lack of respect for others and ultimately a lack of respect for ourselves. We admonish people about swearing with ‘you kiss your mama with that mouth?’ that is a saying in society because we know that this select vocabulary is really unacceptable, but no one is holding themselves responsible for the filth that flows out of their mouths every day.

I know that if you’ve been on the internet, you’ve seen the ‘studies show that people that swear are more intelligent’ I’m sorry that is a lie, I have looked it up, and it is unsubstantiated, remember if it’s on the internet that doesn’t mean it’s real or true. Someone (I don’t know who) made that little meme up to make themselves feel better about their swearing. This is what people do, they feel guilty about something they do, and they make up a reason to why they should be allowed to do it. It’s called justifying your actions. Not that this is right, any responsible adult will tell you it’s not. If you have to justify any action, is it really a good idea? You all can answer that question yourselves.

Verbal cancer. Let’s say that again, verbal cancer. When you use certain words, especially curse words, your mind and mouth get into a habit of saying them, and then it’s as hard to train yourself back into a family friendly vocabulary. Using swear words actually limits your vocabulary, because your so used to using that select few curse words, that you don’t feel the need to expand your vocabulary. And then your catapulted into the situations where your friends and family and even strangers telling your to ‘watch your language’ and of course if your a genuinely nice person, you immediately apologize and promise not to swear in front of their kid, or grandparents, or even parents. But here is where the wheat gets separated from the chaff. If the person continues to swear after they have been asked to stop, are you going to invite them back to teach your kids words they are to immature to handle? Or even to disrespect your parents or grandparents? I know I wouldn’t.

You can tell a lot about a person by the way they talk. If they swear continually, are always saying negative things about others (gossip), accusing people of things that are unsubstantiated, and just basically nasty when it comes to their words, those people are showing that they have low self-esteem, and because they can’t respect themselves, they don’t know how to respect others. If you find a person that is respectful in their speech (and these are far and few between) these are the people who have been taught to be respectful of themselves and of others. And really isn’t it nicer to talk to someone who isn’t spewing filth all over?

If you look at the words that are in the curse words category, do any of them have a good meaning? No not one. And girls we should not allow ourselves to be referred to as female dogs. My husband owns a female dog, and she is whiny, needy, will have sex with any male dog around. Why on earth would we allow anyone to call us a dog whore? And what girl on the planet wants to be constantly degraded? Let’s face it it’s not a badge of honor, it’s an insult, the men don’t ever mean it in a nice way, lets stop giving them a free pass on degrading us. Oh and lets stop degrading each other, we get it from guys that don’t respect us, why are we disrespecting each other?

If someone referrs to you with a curse word, know that They don’t respect you. I you respect someone you don’t swear in front of them, much less at or to them. Do you swear in front of your grandparents? No, because you respect them and their values. Let’s take that respect and apply it to ourselves, I respect myself so I won’t fill my mind and my mouth with words that are degrading to me.

Okay I’ll stop now and get off my soap box, but lets remember to respect ourselves and to respect others.

Becca Jenne

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I am a musician, a song writer, a coffeeholic, a florist, a home maker, a wife, and artist. now it just sounds like I'm bragging. I might be a little. :-)

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