As a designer working predominantly with small business owners, I meet a lot of people who’ve never worked one-on-one with a designer before, usually because they’ve also never launched their own business before, let alone one with a website attached to it. This can be either a boon or a bane for both parties and if you belong to either one, it’s important that you understand why.
Having started my own business from the ground up, I understand the desire to get things up and running quickly and in the most cost-effective way feasible. Every resource is precious — time, money, energy — and cutting corners will become something of a survival mechanism for a while until you can truly hold your own. …
How fortunate are those able to move through so many spaces with such ease.
How fortunate one must be to, without a second thought, silence the cries and the pleas and the anger from those stranded on the other side.
How fortunate they must feel, to be able to shut out the blinding light of the world outside of theirs, with no more effort than it takes to draw close their velvet curtains.
To mute. To block. To ignore.
To write off the frustrations of others as negativity. To cast the struggles of others as beneath them and irrelevant. …
Listen, child. Listen.
Listen, child, to the sound of my voice. Not to the noise that surrounds you.
Listen, child, to my words that are spoken. Not to the ones that are heard.
Listen, softly, with everything you have, to the ones who push you forward. Not to the ones who hold you back.
When you’re weary, listen to the words that give you strength. When you’re afraid, listen to the words that build your courage. When you’re uncertain, listen to the words that reassure you.
Amidst the commotion the world over, there is still tranquility to be found. There is still someplace that welcomes you, warms you and keeps you whole. At times, painfully distant. Other times, only a whisper away. But first, child, you must listen.
People. We need to talk.
We need to talk about sex.
We need to talk about gender.
We need to talk about rights.
We need to talk about religion.
We need to talk about health.
We need to talk about history.
We need to talk about each other.
And we need to talk about talking.
We need to talk sensibly and respectfully and confidently about so many things and it’s high time we quit hiding behind our comfortable conventions and manufactured, idealised notions of normality and get down to brass tacks.
And there’s no better time than the present. So… Are you ready?
Here’s the thing…
The Women’s March on Washington is/was a huge deal. I’m not going to get into why. That’s not what this post is about. But what I would like to say is that, like so many grassroots movements for social change, it isn’t perfect. I don’t think anyone would argue that.
No movement, particularly one as powerful and encompassing as this, has to be perfect to effect change. Not everyone is going to agree with the message or the delivery or other tactics of its participants. You may think that wearing “pussy hats” dilutes the message and excludes trans women. You may think that the disabled and mentally ill aren’t equally represented. …
I’ve been struggling with something for a while now and I never could quite figure out how to articulate it. But I’m tired of not saying anything about it, which is funny, given that it involves speaking up and reaching out to others to say, “Hey. I get it. I’ve been there.”
And in all too many cases, “I’m still there.”
The struggle being: how are you supposed to communicate that to anyone when the experience you’re referring to largely involves feelings of being ignored, misunderstood or lied to? How do you tell someone you empathise with them in the pain they feel from people not empathising with them? …
Sticking to the beaten path is easy. When the road you venture down has largely been rid of obstacles, bends and forks, there is so little to lead you astray.
You know where you’ve been and you know where you’re going, because so many before you have gone the same way. Even though you may be experiencing it all for the first time, there are no surprises because you knew what to expect. You planned for it, saved for it, studied for it. …