Who do you think you are?
Answer that, if you would.
Not “who are you” because that can be confusing and difficult to answer.
How do you think about yourself?
This can also be a challenging question to answer because if you’re like me you want to find the “right” answer.
I recently taught a class and used this question as the icebreaker.
Typically I’ll answer the question first to allow more time for people to think of their response. This week I had a specific purpose in mind, so I opted to go last.
We had some great answers. Some responded with sentences, some with lists, a few with one word, and one with a quote.
People were anxious for me to speak up because they didn’t enjoy how much pleasure I was taking from watching them think long and hard about how they would answer.
I smirked with a simple “I don’t know.”
I got some glares for that.. go figure.
Then I gave my serious answer, “I’m figuring it out.” Which was also met with a few hesitant looks.
I view myself differently today than I viewed myself a year ago. I hope I view myself differently one year from now.
I’m a 1 on the enneagram, Si on the DiSC assessment, ESFP on Myers Briggs, my dominant tendency is obliger, and I’m a hufflepuff. I didn’t have words for some of those even six months ago.
I’m male, white, heterosexual. Those are true of me, and yet they were slow to come to mind in this descriptor game.
I think of myself as helpful, so I’m more likely to engage in activities that I perceive as helpful.
Questions are powerful. This question can be helpful or harmful depending on the tone with which it is asked.
When I’m on a date and I’m asked to “Tell me about yourself”, my heartbeat skyrockets.
As I gather the information in my head some of the first thoughts are “Wow, I’m a boring person” and “How can I use this on other people.”
Then I try and impress her with my collection of board games. (I have a bunch)
Typically I’ll point back to my family.
Perhaps it’s because I think of myself as a family person.
I’ll turn it back around with questions about her as quickly as I can, maybe because I’m uncomfy talking about myself.
Asking myself “who do you think you are” probably would help my dating game. More than that it likely will help me establish a more firm foundation in the way I lead.
The way we view ourselves shapes our everyday interactions with people and things.
It’s a reflective question that God asks Habakkuk in the book of the same name.
In this question the implicit question is “who do you think I am?” Go read about it, it’s good.
Having an accurate view of myself allows me to have a more accurate view of the world outside of me.
The opposite may be true as well, I find it best to start with self.
Kevin and I are in the process of becoming more. We hope you’ll join us.
It starts with “Who do you think you are?”