The One Thing You Need Less of Right Now

your life depends on it

We would be better off with a lot less of just about everything. The tangible things are the easiest to remove from your life, but it’s the things you can’t see that are often the most important to eliminate.

These are the things that have been with us for as long as we can remember and we forget that we chose them. Things like guilt, worry, negative thinking, comparison, busyness and exhaustion.

Of course, they all lead to the one thing that for some reason we think we’ve earned or deserve. You need less of this today. Your life depends on it.

You need less stress

Oh, you already know that? Unfortunately, knowing it doesn’t always change it. Somewhere, somehow we started to believe that a productive, successful life included long work hours, not enough sleep, jobs we hate, jam-packed calendars, saying yes when we want to say no,busyness and stress. And to feel better, instead of eliminating the stress, we tried to fix it with booze, pills, food, shopping and other bad behavior.

The sad part is that our doctors, the people we trust to heal us are helping us kill our pain with medicine that is killing us. We ask for it and they give it to us because they don’t have time to help us heal. We take it because we don’t have time to heal either.

Please don’t misunderstand the message. I’m not saying that all medicine is bad. I take medicine and am so grateful that it is available to me. That said, I don’t think it can heal alone and I strongly believe it is being abused and misused as a quick fix.

Pills are easier than a conversation. Three cocktails are easier than going to yoga everyday and eating food that makes you feel good immediately is way easier than eating food that makes you feel good all the time. It is clear that the quick fix isn’t fixing anything.

“We are the most in debt, obese, addicted, and medicated adult cohort in US history.” — Brene Brown.

How to eliminate stress

We spend too much time dealing with stress and not enough time flat-out eliminating stress. We try to implement stress-reducing strategies so as Lissa Rankin says, “we can stay in the game.”

It’s time to change the game.

  • When you feel crappy, take cold medicine and go to work because you have so much to do, you stop healing.
  • When you stay in a bad relationship because you are afraid of being alone or uncertain about the future, you stop healing.
  • When you buy more stuff instead of addressing the stress of your debt, you stop healing.
  • When you up your dose of Ambien to sleep through the night instead of trying to understand what keeps you up at night, you stop healing.
  • When you spend time proving your worth to the people around you, instead of being your beautiful self, you stop healing.
  • When you do work you hate to keep up with bills to pay for stuff you don’t remember buying or may not even own anymore, you stop healing.

We are masking our pain and stress and completely preventing the healing we so desperately need. Changing the game does not require courage or special tools. All you need is a desire for something better. If you want health and happiness more than you want stressful, soul crushing days, you can have it by living with less of everything that doesn’t matter.

Think of it like this …

  • If you owned less, you would have less to worry about and take care of. That would eliminate stress.
  • If you didn’t have a bunch of stuff, you could live in a smaller space and have even less to clean, insure and maintain. That would eliminate stress.
  • If you had less to worry about and take care of, you wouldn’t be shopping as much and you could start paying off your debt. That would eliminate stress.
  • If you weren’t shopping as much and paid off your debt, you wouldn’t have to earn as much and you could make decisions based on something besides money. That would eliminate stress.
  • If you could make decisions based on something besides money, you could think about how you really want to spend your time and choose to do things that lift you up instead of drag you down. That would eliminate stress.
  • If you could spend your time the way you want and choose to do things that lift you up instead of drag you down, you would naturally start spending time with people who love you for you. That would eliminate stress.
  • If you started spending time with people who love you for you, you’d believe that you were enough and that you didn’t need to buy or do one more thing to be loved. That would eliminate stress.

Sounds simple and straight forward right? It is. It doesn’t happen overnight but it is possible. You can choose less stress for more healing and happiness. Stress is not your badge of honor or cross to bear. Choose a better badge.

Living with less stuff allows you to live with less stress. You deserve less and then so much more.