Why You Lack Loyal Friends
If you’ve been hurt by a lot of broken friendships, this may be what you’re doing wrongly.
These days, a lot of people use the word, ‘friend’ too carelessly. They somehow believe that anyone they cross paths with who isn’t family is automatically a friend.
It’s a habit that was picked up during childhood when bonds were instantly formed around toys, games, outdoor activities, and other childhood shenanigans. Then, life was seen as black and white, no in-betweens.
For some individuals, this aspect of life, unfortunately, escaped the growth spurt of puberty. It successfully meandered its way through adolescence into adulthood.
If you’re one of such people, you’d notice that you’re still quick to slam the friendship label on anyone after a few encounters or exchange of cordial gestures. You give unnecessary depth to courtesy and build intimacy around casual hellos.
You initiate people into BFFs when you learn about one or two shared interests, and soon enough, their pictures dance around your WhatsApp statuses and Instagram stories with the caption, ‘besties.’ While these are people who only qualify as outing mates, cruise buddies or simply, work colleagues, you succeed in being ‘intimate’ with them.
