Steps to managing betrayal at work

Brutus and Caesar; Jesus and Judas; Bolivar and Francisco de Miranda; Samson and Delilah. These mentioned pairs have two things in common, FRIENDSHIP & BETRAYAL. They all started as best friends, but what happened? Well, if history teaches us one thing, even the most powerful men can be betrayed by those they trusted the most.

So you are disorganised because your so assumed friend sitting in the cubicle next to you betrayed your confidence, stood against you before your boss. The reason these attributes became predominant theme throughout history is quiet simple. Loyalty is not human nature.

Some of the heavy thoughts that rush to the mind are; how did I not see this in him? How could she do that to me? Trying to get answers and justifications to depress that horrible feelings. The best solution is learning to find a working strategy to deal with the disappointment and move on with life. We at BENEFiT advise these easier steps to dealing with any kind of disappointment.

· Control your emotion — Getting disappointed or betrayed is a bad, taking deadly or hash reaction for that reason is even worse. We all assume we can’t control the mood we found ourselves in, hoping the best we can do is to wait and let the moment pass away. But the good thing is, we can affect and even change the mood completely to whatever we want it to be without finding ourselves at the bar taking the 4th bottle of alcohol just to get passed the moment.

Being able to feel hurt is one of so many reasons why we are humans, but ability to control emotions and not letting it get in the way of our common sense at that hurting time is very vital. We all make mistakes, am a living proof of that, and how we come back from the mistakes is what matters. Emotion is a part of who we really are.

· Look for good things in the disappointment — It is not what happens to us that causes us to suffer, it’s what we say to ourselves about what happens; said by Pema Chodron. If this quote will teach us anything, we are fully in charge of our feelings. The fact is, it is our perception of the situation that makes us feel bad. No matter how putrefied and socially impaired we feel, we are not. It is just how we control the thought to be a bit wonky. We all believe finding the good, happiness and joy in such state is very difficult but we have to look for it, notice it and take it in. that’s the way!

· Have things in big perceptive afterwards — Even if you perfectly know where you are; perfectly know what you do; have confidence with your friends; you have to still be careful. Once you believe in human duplicity, being hurt in any kind of disappointment will be minimal. The best way of handling betrayal is to actually expect it.