I always joke that I was more attractive to women when I was a totally undisciplined mess. And of course there is quite a bit of truth in jest.
I think there are other factors here. A man that has a drinking problem and goes out a lot is likely to be more gregarious, more exciting, and more like to have crazy stories — at least when they are younger (alcoholics become pretty sad as they age). There is likely something intoxicating about these wild, virile stallions.
Today I am super career focused and quite together; I am tamed and domesticated. But I find that I have less crazy stories, and less interesting conversation. I spend so much of my time in an office, what is there interesting to share! So I may be better on paper, but in reality it’s another story.