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It Doesn’t Matter How Late You Bloom, As Long As You Bloom
My daddy used to say, “Life ain’t no dress rehearsal.” It’s also not a race to be run within a rigid timeframe.
There is a tremendous amount of pressure that exists to “have it all together,” and a huge part of having it all together lies in having a career. And if that pressure wasn’t enough, just wait cause there’s more! Yes, there’s even more pressure to have all your stuff together by the time you reach adulthood–which depending on whom you ask, can be anywhere between 18 and 30. The 20s can be an incredibly stressful time because many spend this time trying to have it all together while simultaneously figuring themselves out. There is a pervasive belief that one should definitely have it all together by the time one is 30. So it can be disheartening to find oneself at 30 (or beyond), still hoping to “arrive” at this place. I understand it all too well. I have been trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up (and if I ever want to grow up at all) since I was a teen. I placed tremendous pressure on myself to have it all figured out. I expected that I would have it together by now. But the longer I live, the less I understand what having it together even means. And for a time, I felt inferior to others because I didn’t. Well, I now know that one of my first…
