We love to talk about leaving the people no longer serving us. But at some point, we’ll be the person to be left because we don’t serve someone else. I was.

“Everybody that start with you ain’t meant to finish with you.” That’s something my daddy would say. He’d say it often and I don’t think he was wrong. Everything, including relationships, has a beginning, middle and ultimately an end. I may go out on a limb and say especially relationships.

My grief and depression made sense to me, but I was shocked to realize I had anxiety as well

Peanut butter and jelly. Frick and Frack. Mac and cheese. Bert and Ernie. Mulder and Scully. Some of the most well-known pairings. When you see one, you naturally expect to see the other. They go together like hands in gloves (another one!). But there are some unexpected pairings. Whitney and…

Safety is a fundamental need, and families set the foundation of our safety, but sometimes family isn’t our safe space

We’re coming upon what is perhaps the most notorious time of the year, the holiday season. There are usually two camps of people during the holiday season, those who love it and those who don’t. For those who love this time of year, gathering with family is one of the…

Being raised by extroverts taught me how not to raise an introvert

I am an introvert. Contrary to popular opinion, introversion isn’t shyness, anti-social ness, social awkwardness, nor rudeness. It’s simply a matter of how one recharges energetically. Introverts look within for answers and for fuel. They socialize, but after…


I did reach out, but my people ignored me and you probably ignore your people too

I used to think I was someone who retreated when I needed help. I thought I isolated myself when faced with troubles. After doing internal work with the help of my therapist, I’ve recognized that retreating is a defense mechanism I’ve developed in response to feeling rejected.

I’m not the…

There are some unpretty truths we don’t say when it comes to relationships. Yes, even the healthy ones.

You’ll know you’re with the right person when you want to be with them all the time.

You won’t have to tell the right person what you need, because they’ll give it to you freely.

The right person will never hurt you.

The right person won’t ask you to change.

Bernie’s Daughter

Writer and mother, daughter. Still trying to figure out what I want to be when I grow up, but I hear growing up is overrated.

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