How insightful and clearly have you expressed this topic, Jonas!
I would like to share with you about this from a reverse position:
In the past, when I had a bad experience or was truly disturbed about something, I would ‘let it all out’ to my beloved late husband. In thinking back, I realize that never once in our blessed 30-year marriage did he attempt to”fix” the problem — he was always ‘being’ there for me, not ‘doing’ (as you stated so well). He knew that all I needed was to let off steam so that it would not stay inside me and fester; I just needed a sounding board.
In the 13 years that he has been gone, I have not yet found such a perfect sounding board!