I am a Woman. You are a Trans Woman. And That Distinction Matters.

Hi Liv. Thanks for writing this. I’m trans myself, 21 years post-op, and I would never insert myself into places that are specifically for cis women. I honestly don’t understand the kind of people who do that.

I don’t tell people I’m trans, because most people have no need to know. My partner knows, because she needed to, but the rest of the world?

But I never had people tell me I couldn’t do things just because I was a girl. And that alone makes my experience utterly different from women who grew up as girls.

Frankly, transwomen who try and claim that women have to accept them as being no different whatsoever haven’t really transitioned. Not inside. Not psychologically. They still have that guy thing going on.

If I do tell someone that I’m trans and then they reject me for it, it makes me feel like crap. But why are my feelings the only ones that count? So in situations like that (when they happen), I just suck it up and move on.

I’m really sorry that you’re going to have to take the kind of crap I can imagine being thrown at you for writing this. But know that it’s not all of us. Just the idiots.

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