If you don’t see a clear path
Growing up, once in a while, my parents would look at me with a scowl and say “once you get something in your head you won’t stop until you get it done.” It was usually along the lines of seeing a pair of cool shoes on TV and begging my parents for months until they caved. I could give you millions of examples but I can guarantee, their scowls were aways warranted.
Fast forward many years later. I was in a job interview and I was asked ‘if your best friend could describe you in one sentence, how would they describe you?” I didn’t miss a beat “She would say once I get something in my head, I don’t stop until I get it done.”
I got the job.
As it turns out, the quality that always used to ruffle my parent’s feathers has proved to be one of my best. Once I set my sights on something, I go to great lengths to get it done. This trajectory doesn’t always end well of course. I come across many disappointments and failures but I can attribute this quality to many of the ‘successes’ in my adult life.
Why do you see a seemingly unrelated Mindy Kaling quote? It seems random but that quality of mine and this quote are very much connected.
I didn’t see a clear path of what I wanted but I knew I wanted to do a lot of things. Sitting at my desk chair shuffling ads through email wasn’t going to get me there any time soon. So I got a few ideas in my head. At the time, I knew the ideas were far fetched, but my stubborn, childhood quality flicked on and away I went.
I’m not much of risk taker. I’ve said it before ‘I don’t seek thrill.’ The particular quality I’ve been talking about has tricked me into taking risks many times. It’s allowed me to be so focused on the end result that I’ve taken risks without realizing it was scary.
Since we’re getting super cliche here (but don’t we always on betterleftsaid.ca), my route hasn’t always been a nice, park-like path. I like to think it’s been more of an Alice in Wonderland dark forest, with magical creatures whispering weird yet inspirational things along the way. It’s helped me realize what you want to do isn’t going to drop on your lap. Getting exactly where you want to be isn’t going to be a walk in the park. It’s scary but sometimes you don’t even realize because creating your own way is half the fun.*
*See also, “it’s not aways the destination but the journey” or something like that.