19 Days to Go: Turning 50! 50 GlowTips I’m sharing to Spread the Glow!
19 Days to go until I turn 50! So I’ve decided to share 50 GlowTips to Get Your Glow ON — one per day, in no particular order of importance and just as they come to me…
And here’s GlowTip 32: I choose to *commit* to my happiness. Because who wants to be miserable?!
You say you want it. But how much do you really want it? Are you committed to what you want?
This is a helpful question to ask ourselves regularly. Because if we’re not committed to what we want, there are plenty of other things and other people’s agendas to distract us along the way.
The only way to have/do/be what you want is to commit to it. And that means continuously choosing what you want, over and above any other distractions or alternatives.
It’s essential to remind yourself of what’s important to you, and why — and to commit to it.
The great thing about making a commitment is that it’s non-negotiable. You can’t semi, maybe, sort of commit to something. Either you’re committed or you’re not!
So there’s no dithering and self-sabotage…Maybe I can have just a small piece of this chocolate cake, oh oops I ate the whole thing!…..Maybe I can skip my workout today….I’ll buy this now and maybe I can save extra next month ….Ok, I’ll skip what I want because they’re more important than me… There is no decision-making, it’s not open for debate, because you’ve already committed to the Good Stuff!
Making a commitment to what you want, is choosing to commit to yourself.
What’s the point of torturing yourself; wishing that you could be whatever it is that you want — and then doing exactly the opposite of what you know would help you to get there? (Yes, you know you can’t lose those love handles while you’re hoovering down that entire cake.)
It’s not always easy and convenient to honour our commitment. But it’s always worth it. Because every time we let ourselves down, it only makes us feel worse. And when we give up on what we want, we give up a little more on who we are. And we lose ourselves little by little. How depressing!
So we’ve got to commit to what’s important to us. We’ve got to commit to ourselves. We’ve got to consciously and consistently choose in favour of what we want — does this thought/feeling/action align with who I am and who I choose to be? And if not — choose again!
Because if we can’t commit to ourselves, how can we expect anyone else to commit to us? We show the world what we think of ourselves. So why would anyone want to be there for us, when we’re not willing to show UP for ourselves.
It’s not about how much ‘willpower’ you have. It’s about how willing you are to choose the Good Stuff. And if you really want it that badly — you will!
I chose long ago to commit to my happiness. Because who wants to be miserable?!
I know what I want, I know what I need and I know what I won’t tolerate. And that way, no-one else is responsible for my happiness but me. I’m in charge!
Committing to ourselves is emPowering. It helps us stay tuned to the Good Stuff and Gets our Glow On!