28 Days to Go: Turning 50! 50 GlowTips I’m sharing to Spread the Glow!
28 Days to go until I turn 50! So I’ve decided to share 50 GlowTips to Get Your Glow ON — one per day, in no particular order of importance and just as they come to me…
And here’s GlowTip 23: Forget about faking perfection — just be perfectly You!
I met a friend at a conference, just before she was due to give a presentation about her business. She was looking absolutely amazing and I complimented her and wished her luck.
“If you knew the kind of day I’ve had…”, she said.
“Well why don’t you share that with the audience”, I suggested.
“They’re all entrepreneurs. And it’s important that they realise that we all have horrible days. It’ll help them when they understand that they’re not going through their stuff alone. And you’ll inspire them just by the fact that you showed up here this evening. In spite of everything that’s going on.”
We all have bad hair days and ghastly days and days when we want to crawl under the bed and hide. And that’s perfectly ok!
None of us have ‘perfect’ lives. We’re all just trying to hold it together. It’s understandable that we don’t want to appear in public bawling and spilling our guts out all over the place — especially not in professional situations. But that doesn’t mean we can’t keep it real!
People would feel a lot better about themselves — and each other — if we showed up as the people we really are behind our façade. Instead of trying to impress each other — we would actually connect with each other!
I don’t believe in trying to maintain a façade and showing the world who I’m not. Because if I’m faking it, all I’m attracting is a whole lot more fakery. And that’s a huge amount of effort to maintain and not sustainable.
I prefer real relationships with real people who get me. I’m known for being frank and candid. But that doesn’t mean I have to let it all hang out at all times. I’m not talking about hanging up all your dirty laundry for everyone to see.
I just don’t have time for the BS. Life is too precious and too beautiful to waste it on fake-impressing people. Or on people who are fake-impressing me.
We can make it so much easier for each other when we share our true selves and allow ourselves to be seen for who we really are and what we’re really going through. Because none of us is more perfect than anyone else. And we’re all in this together!
There’s nothing worse than discovering that people aren’t who they appear to be — especially when we think we’ve truly connected. And if you’re trying to be someone you’re really not — well Good Luck with keeping that up!
True happiness can’t come from fake reality. I’d rather be perfectly real and perfectly Me!