3 Days to Go: Turning 50! 50 GlowTips I’m sharing to Spread the Glow!
3 Days to go until I turn 50! So I’ve decided to share 50 GlowTips to Get Your Glow ON — one per day, in no particular order of importance and just as they come to me…
And here’s GlowTip 48: Why scare yourself when you can cheer yourself? Focus on the Upside!
Having a positive outlook is not delusional. It’s not ignoring reality. It’s choosing to focus on the upside. And there’s always an upside!
Sometimes it can be hard to see it at the time. Especially if we’re lying face down in the mud. (Well, hey! A free facial!).
But often we’ll see in hindsight that something which was so terrible at the time, was actually the best thing that could have happened all along. Adversity always brings blessings in disguise.
A friend of mine missed his flight to New York and missed attending his brother’s wedding. He has his Pan-Am Flight 103 airline ticket framed on his wall — reminding him how lucky he was to escape the Lockerbie bombing.
So many people spend their lives wishing for more — more money, more stuff, more resources, more love…. And often the upside of not having what we need can enable us to become more resourceful, more creative, more expansive — enabling us to grow into ‘more’ of who we really are.
There’s always opportunity in adversity. We’ve just got to learn to look for it, to recognise it and appreciate it. So even when we’re being swamped by the tough stuff — we can always tune into the Good Stuff.
I noticed the upside of the recession and all the cut-backs was that there was a lot of cutting out the BS and all the hype. People were re-assessing priorities and going back to what was important.
It encouraged more co-operation, more collaboration and more innovation. People had to become more creative. They started using their creativity to earn a living. They had to become better at doing what they loved. And what came out of it was more of the Good Stuff!
Life really is what you make of it. And what you make of it is what you’re focusing on and what you choose to see.
I’m a relentless optimist. I’m all about the upside! Because who wants to be miserable?! Who cares if the glass is half-full or half-empty. There’s a glass. Yay! Let’s celebrate and order Champagne!
You can’t enjoy or achieve anything with a negative attitude — except for attracting more negativity. And who wants to join that pity party?
The more negative you are, the more put yourself into that negativity spiral when it all starts unravelling and everything’s going wrong.
But positivity is contagious! Enthusiasm is infectious! It attracts other positive people. It attracts more opportunities and creates more of the Good Stuff!
Why focus on what you don’t want — on the stuff that’s upsetting you and the stuff you’re afraid of? You’ll only scare yourself into a state of overwhelming fear and despair! It’s hard to pick yourself up when you’re thinking yourself down!
Focusing on the upside helps you find the Good Stuff in every situation. It helps to make life less frightful and more delightful!
Why scare yourself, when you can cheer yourself? Focus on the upside! Tune into the Good Stuff! Focus your attention on whatever uplifts, inspires and empowers you to Get your Glow ON!