40 Days to Go: Turning 50! 50 GlowTips I’m sharing to Spread the Glow!
40 Days to go until I turn 50! So I’ve decided to share 50 GlowTips to Get Your Glow ON — one per day, in no particular order of importance and just as they come to me…
And here’s #GlowTip 11) It’s no fun at the pity party!
“Misery loves company” is an old saying that is absolutely true — but who really enjoys that kind of company? Only another misery!
Listening to someone else’s negativity is draining. I find other people’s ranting, whining, bitching and moaning so repellent, it makes me want to take off as quickly as possible in the opposite direction.
Many years ago, in my 20s, I went out with a tall, dark and handsome man. He was highly intelligent, a maritime lawyer, who had paid for his university education by working as a fashion model in Europe. He was beautiful to look at. And a good, kind human being. And he absolutely adored me.
But his chronic negative attitude towards life was so off-putting, it drove me away.
He had a huge chip on his shoulder because his father had lost all the family money, and he’d been fat as a child.
So what?! Imagine letting those things ruin your perception of Life.
He’d put a dampener on things before we could even get started…
We couldn’t go to the beach, because it was “too busy and we’d never get parking”. (I have never ever had a problem getting a parking bay right in front of where I’m going — no matter how busy.)
And no matter what anyone suggested, he would always find a reason to complain.
He had every conceivable ache and pain going and was a chronic hypochondriac. So we couldn’t do this because his back hurt, and we couldn’t do that, because his sinuses were blocked…And after a while, I found his attitude so unbearable I wanted to strangle him. So I had to move on!
We all have stuff that bugs us and we all want to vent and complain at times. But when that starts to become our state-of-mind, and we adopt a permanently negative attitude, that’s when we start pushing all the Good Stuff away.
When I do mentorship work with clients, I allow them a “misery minute” — to let me know what they’re unhappy about. Sometimes this will get some of them started on a long rant…at which point I’ll clap my hands and shout out that “the minute’s over”!
“Now — what can we do to shift out of this misery?”
Because no matter how good-looking and intelligent people are — a negative attitude will only attract more negativity.
So here’s to avoiding the pity party and to spending time with happy, healthy people who want to celebrate and enjoy life and Spread the Glow!