Note about the name:
Growing up, the term “boy girl party” was still in use and indicated a very specific checkpoint of adolescence: The time that you attended a social function, typically a birthday party, that not only had both girls AND boys in attendance, but often in a less-than-supervised manner.
Freed of division, left to your own devices and pumped full of adolescent hormonal craziness, these events were the foundation of first crushes, first kisses, first relationships, first break-ups and other forms of emotional fireworks that would empower development all the while driving you (and likely everyone else around you) completely insane.
This term stems from childhoods where boys and girls were still largely socialized apart. As someone who works with adolescents, that seems to have changed substantially — to the point where a term like “boy girl party” might seem redundant to the average 12-year-old. Many of the friend groups that come in and out of my workplace are comprised of kids of all variety of gender identities. The world is, albeit slowly, making wonderful steps toward dissolving so many of the barriers between genders, even deconstructing and disregarding the very notion of gender.
But in the world of professional wrestling, divisions between the sexes typically remain concretely upheld. Intergender wrestling ignores that divide, evolving wrestling in the same way that mixed socializing develops young people. However, rather than evolving the talent within the matches, the development is primarily within pro wrestling and its surrounding culture. In many ways, for pro wrestling to really mature, it needs to embrace intergender wrestling beyond novelty.
There’s a reason that no one calls an adult party a “boy girl party.” What might have been a novel occurrence when we were kids is the norm when we are adults. I believe pro wrestling should do the same and establish intergender wrestling as a norm.
Note: “Boy girl party” is used for the idiom and not to imply any strict observation of genders. This writer acknowledges and honors individuals of all gender identities and believes that pro wrestling should do the same.