How Desires Create Unhappiness, Negativity & Problems.

Our physical reality modifies itself to ward off the challenges we believe lie “out there”.

— Richard Boyd

I was contemplating how best to write a post about how desires and wanting create suffering, and I came across an article that contained a lot of what I wanted to say.

I have revised a section of it here to clarify my point and also linked to it at the bottom of this post.

It is said in the concept of the law of attraction that we can create and manifest our reality.

So why then do we create and experience unhappiness, negativity, and problems, especially when we did not remember desiring such experiences?

It seems that undesirable experiences are created due to the way in which the human mind creates all physical things in its reality.

The thinking seems to be that if the mind creates things in the external environment then it also creates the experience it has with those things.

FIRST:
 This is firstly because the thing that is experienced for the very first time has been somehow already created.

This initial appearance of the thing is probably pure creation and manifestation as anything could have appeared in your reality. Great hey?

However, this purity of creation of the thing itself becomes disturbed by what the observer of the thing has in their mind.

Let’s use the example of a man appearing and being observed by a woman (men and women are things).

Depending on the information in the mind of the woman (the database) about the man — desires, beliefs, conditioning, opinion, preferences, etc, after the intial obervation of the man by the woman, and in the next and almost instantaneous moment, the database now perceives the man thing as a bastard man thing, an unsafe man thing, an abusive man thing, an alcoholic man thing, a manipulative man thing, etc.

The database of the woman has created a judgement about the man thing from the information it holds.

As in the above exmaple, if the judgement is negative and the woman also holds a negative internal state (a negative feeling as well as a negative thought), there will most likely be defence from the man thing, due to the literally unlikely judgmenet about the man thing.

The big trick or big lie is we are actually creating the basis for attracting these same negative experiences towards us as a lifetime pattern due to the way in which mind creates all the objects in its personal reality. The rationale is that if our mind creates the objects we encounter “out there” then it creates the very experiences we have with those objects as well. This is because apart from the first moment when intention is the primary wave-form energy that creates the “probable” object from the energy cloud of all infinite possibilities, from then on our projection of “our stuff” subtly changes the characteristics of that object first perceived.

So if we see a person who we name as being a man, then depending on what our internal bodymind database holds as information about men, the next moment subtly changes the “man object” to be a “bastard man object”, “unsafe or abusing man object”, “alcoholic man object” etc. How does this come about beyond the projection we spoke about earlier. Think of it like this, part of our internal database information is the equivalent of a “conclusion” about the nature of that type of object. If the conclusion has a negative emotionally charged energy state, we will at some level have a defence against it.

For example, by having a defence against “bad men objects” we create the basis in the brain to activate a hyper vigilance in the bodily Autonomic and central nervous system to scan and detect these externally to us. The rear two sections of the brain, the primitive amphibian and the limbic parts of the brain are noted as controlling our bodymind database which includes primitive fear and anger states. This is wired into the bodymind via the Autonomic Nervous System(ANS) in sympathetic mode, and via neurochemical pathways of neuropeptides and receptor molecules. This process can create the basis for a person becoming “addicted” to emotional states.

The defence in the body includes whichever emotional energy it is “wired” to and can have an unfortunate effect. It turns you into a huge energy transmitter of that negative wave-form energy co-joined or mixed with the information or thought energy about the object triggering you. So maybe you transmit a mix of the negative emotional state of “fear” plus additional internal bodymind information/conclusion that “all men rip me off”. The net effect is that this becomes your unconscious intention in the next moment, and you then create the basis to “pop” from the infinite possible combination of men out there, one you fear and one who eventually rips you off.

Remember reality is subjective. Whether you really need to fear that man or whether he really rips you off is subjective. He may be someone to fear and he may rip you off, or you may just project your fears onto him, and end up having a distorted belief that he ripped you off. It does not matter. All that matters is that reality delivers to your stated but unconscious intention that you transmit from your energy field. This is the basis of what we call “self sabotage” in therapy. We set ourselves up to get disappointed, to get betrayed, used or abused, or to fail, but fail to see how we create this, instead become victims and then see the world and others out there doing it to us, or doing us over. We feel powerless and victimized in this place.

The universe is neutral. You can have it all or have nothing, it is up to you. The universe has no favourites. It merely delivers to what you request of it, regardless of whether you do that unconsciously or consciously, in every single moment. The universal law of attraction does not seem to recognize one’s attitude to an object, just the object itself. By this I mean that if you wish for an object or experience to happen then it is the focus on the object, and not the positive feeling that creates the object. Likewise if one wishes to avoid an object or experience and thinks in this negative way, then one still attracts the object, because it is the object focus that counts, and not the feeling toward the object.

Your mind creates your reality and you are the creator of your subjective reality and no-one else. Theology states that God is within you from this co-creator perspective. The only fate is that which you create, and you are only a victim because you are ignorant of cause and effect. It is not a willful process, for you already create now in every moment without needing to engage in willfulness.