Own Your Suit

Bhuwan Bansal
Jul 22, 2017 · 4 min read
Credits: Unsplash

Suits are a thing, prosaic attitude of putting on a suit. We’ve been brain washed to be not dressed like gentlemen.

The magic of Ralph Lauren was that a Jewish boy from New York created a waspy empire. He created this empire and resold this waspy world to the waspy world.

There was no creativity in the suit. A suit needs to be creative. He shouldn’t put the suit on cause he’s told to put it on. He’s gonna wanna put it on. Ralph took on a cliché, he took on a trope, he refashioned that cliché. A new sense of life. He put black people in the suits where traditionally it was just the white man’s suit. He made it feel new, he gave it a taste. What he did was he tipped his hat the old world but he also tipped his hat the new world. It allowed wasps to find their way back with an eloquent narrative.

If you don’t own something you are not the boss. You have to take full responsibility for everything you do. Why be subservient? You must be the one steering your ship. You can’t just walk into things with your eyes half open, you’ve got to know what you’re getting into. Whatever mantra or meditation you try to espouse in your life, there needs to be some period in your day where you remember that there is a world out there trying to tell you who you are and that there is a world inside you that is trying to tell who you are. Now where do you want to put your x? Because the world outside is very noisy, very tempting and as all the razzmatazz, it’s got all the toys. But that’s because you don’t think you’re enough in the first place. When you drift on this point, the whole idea of the world to sell you stuff is to make you feel bad about yourself, less than in someway. I do resent this system but it is the system we live in.

However, they say “hate the game, don’t hate the player”, I’d say love the game because you’re in it mate! Own the game, accept the rules and move on into the rules. So, the world will try and tell you who you are, and you must tell yourself who you are. Moreover, this is the ongoing conflict and somehow there needs to be a reconciliation between the two. But in the end, you’ve got all the eggs in your basket.

And yet there is a constant battle between the two identities, there’s the you that you want people to think who you are and there’s the you who you are, then you try to figure out who you really are?

Do I have a correct assumption of how the people are perceiving me and how I actually am objectively or am I just faking it with this suit and pocket square?

Essentially there are only two worlds, the inner world of energy and outer world. One’s real one’s false. The external world is: I am asking the world to tell who I am? That’s what we’re all playing, as soon as we get caught in it, call it the ego but that’s the dynamic we’re in and somehow, we have to give ourselves enough confidence and assurance that we are enough. However, I enter the game because I’ve got to move on in the world and I know that there are loads of temptations along the way so I will own the suit and I’m going to wear the suit.

I don’t mean by paying for it but I mean by owning it. It is my suit, its my idea to put on the suit. I must personalize it in someway. I have to understand a narrative that allows to me own that suit and thereby I put on my suit of armor, and I come out in the world. I’m going to have a good time because now I’m owning the suit.


I hope you enjoyed this analogy.

Till next time

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