> Because, like you, rather than listen when I told them somthing was wrong or trust

Why like me? We had no conversation before you accused me of things. The comment in which you told me about your disease was the same you accused me of things, so I had no time to react in an understanding way to any of that.

> the idea that you are allowed the familiarity to ask it in the first place.

Why not? If people were not supposed to comment on your text, why post it on social media?

Asking “why” is always important.

Now think of all this time wasted on a discussing over an imaginary conflict, and imagine two possible dialogues.

Dialogue A:

• I suffered for being fat.
• Why didn’t you lose weight?
• I wish I could, but I have a disease.
• Oh, sorry. That must be hard. My wife also has a disease that impacts her relation with food and quality of life.
• (And the conversation goes on, moving forward)

Dialogue B:

• I suffered for being fat.
• Why didn’t you lose weight.
• I have a disease. And you asking is offensive, you are the problem blablabla.
• (And then the two of them waste a lot of time where the fat girl keeps repeatedly offending the former fat guy and no constructive conversation comes out of that).

You went the route of dialogue B. You get offended by basic questions. So I do not believe, not even for one second, that it’s not a delicate subject for you. Often when people attack another person it’s to cover their insecurities.

You’re so closed to dialogue that you’re implying I need a special intimacy to ask basic harmless questions on a text that was published for everyone to read.

How about not attacking other people, and moving the conversation forward?