BEING INTERESTED RATHER THAN BEING INTERESTING
People use to talk about their selves. We want other people to be interested in our selves and we do not want to be interested in other people. I am talking about all this with reference to a task which was given to me during my fellowship program in Amal academy and the task was “The interested challenge” in which I have to read chapter #1 of the book titled “How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie and after reading I have to sum up the main takeaways.
In this book Dale Carnegie put light on the fact that by simply being interested in others we can not only make new friends but we can also make other people feel honored. The name of the first chapter is itself tells a lot which is “Do This, and You’ll be Welcomed Everywhere”. By making others interested in us we cannot make true and sincere friends in fact true friends are not made that way.
In this book Dale also talked about his dog Tippy who died due to a tragic event of lightning. I also want to put light on the saying of Mr. Dale to his dog:
“You never read a book on psychology, Tippy. You knew by some divine instinct that you can make more friends in two months by genuinely getting interested in people than you can make in two years by trying to get people interested in you.”
Here I want to share my experience of this challenge. I applied this rule of being interested in others and what I found that people become more closer to me. When I started to listen to others then there was a positive change of behavior and attitude of other people towards me. My main takeaway from this chapter was to greet others, listen to them, focus on you rather that I. If we apply these principles in our lives we can make more and more friends and make our society a better place to live in. We can create an environment of tenderness, loving and sympathetic.