Being Interesting or Being interested
Being Interesting or being interested has been a topic catching my attention from past few days.
You got one life and you need to live to its fullest. But you are not alone here. You got so many faces wandering around you: may be your friends, family, colleagues or some strangers. In life you need to be the one interacting with the people around you, living, & cooperating with them, making friendships, creating memories; which you will be nourishing for the future.
Before going any further, I would like to name a book, “How to Win Friends & Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. This book helped me the most in knowing more about this topic. It is a common experience, that you prefer talking to those who show interest in you rather than the people who just keep describing themselves. You pay more attention to the words that somehow sound related to you. You want to make those people your friends, who know you, listen to you, pacify you and take interest in talking to you.
I have seen such experiences in my life. Everyone reading this, can recall his memories and I am sure he will find such occasions. It is natural that you bend things you feel interested in you. Same way, you can test this the other way. Start behaving good to other people, start listening to them. Talk to them in a good manner. Keep showing interest in their health, their doings and the troubles. You will start experiencing a new magnetic force dragging them towards you. You will start seeing friends in those who were strangers to you, few days back. This is how it all goes.
In order to experience this, I decided to try it in my daily life. I chose some people from my friends, teachers & colleagues. After having salutations, my complete focus was only on asking them questions about themselves. Resisting the desire or habit to talk about myself, I focused entirely on showing deep interest in others.
I asked questions like: how are you, what are you working on these days, how is your family. And somehow got some funny responses as well, like are you fine! How can it be possible that you are breaking the ice! But there were some exciting and surprising responses also. As, I was experiencing the same as the theory I read before and which I shared to you also. Asking about people, made them feel so special and happy that someone is interested to listen them and know about it. All these feeling could be felt by the words in which they were responding.
In the end, I would like to mention some lines from the same book, I mentioned earlier by Dale Carnegie:
If you want others to like you, if you want to develop real friendships, if you want to help others at the same time as you help yourself, keep this principle in mind: Become genuinely interested in other people.