How to Survive Barbecue Intimidation (and Other Spiritual Growth Tips.)

Bill Todd


Welcome to Gates!

They yell it as soon as you are in the door. You don’t have a second to look at the menu. Not one. The pressure is on. If you are new, or are not comfortable asking them to wait, you will get flustered.

But the food is worth it. So worth it. The best barbecue in Kansas City. There is no competition. Many other names make the headlines. But Gates barbecue is the real deal.

So you learn how to operate in the Gates Barbecue world. You learn that you don’t have to be pressured. That the kind folks at Gates will happily wait for you to look over the menu and take your order.

Burnt ends. Brisket sandwich. On white bread. Only white bread. With a strawberry soda. So sweet. You can hear Wilfred Brimley whispering “diabeetus” in your ear. But you don’t care. Because it is so good.

You don’t have to deny yourself the good stuff just because you are uncomfortable. Or are not sure about the protocol. In barbecue. In life.

Or in your spiritual growth.

When possible, it’s best to visit Gates with someone who has been there before. Who can let you know that you don’t need to feel rushed. That you can take your time to look over the menu before you order. To recommend the burnt ends. To insist on the full white bread and strawberry soda experience.

A type of barbecue concierge, if you will.

That’s what a spiritual director can do for you. Let you know that you don’t have to feel rushed. That you don’t have to operate by someone else’s expectations. To recommend proven practices and and time tested paths.

Even to recommend the strawberry soda.

If you want to see some of the practices and paths that I recommend as a spiritual director, you can grab a copy of the A.B.I.D.E. course. It’s free. It’s easy to use. And there is a good chance that you will find some items that will satisfy your spiritual palate.

You can find it right here.

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Bill Todd

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Bill Todd

You desire a rich, connected soul life. I provide spiritual direction to help you make that life a reality.

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