The best way to do this seems to be to zoom out and recognize life for what it is as a whole, rather than getting lost in the immediate distractions and shortcomings of the day-to-day. In Zen we often think it’s important to get lost in the moment, or to bury ourselves in momentary tasks, but this is its own sort of regression. Maybe we need to simultaneously root ourselves in the moment while recognizing the totality— the void is very real, life is painful and people do not get what they want. There is also lots of unexpected beauty if we aren’t so hyper-focused on what’s difficult or wrong. Growing up is recognizing this, making peace with it, and finding gratitude for what is. Give yourself room not just to lower your expectations but to eliminate them entirely so something new and more organic can emerge. I’ll try it too and let you know how it goes.