I can see that, Stephie Neuman. Good food for thought.
Without expecting our friends to completely conform to doing and saying things as we want them too (disappointment in life and relationships usually comes from unrealistic or exaggerated expectations), I agree that best practices suggests that at least her friend could’ve said it in a more positive way, “ you look great!” vs. “ you look the same.”. Her intentions being the same in either statement, even that small change makes a big difference.
Situations like this require both speaker AND listener to be thoughtful and sensitive, sprinkled with grace and understanding. Heck, her friend may just be a blunt person in general. If you know that about somebody, you take their comments through that understanding filter.
Good stuff. Thanks for your comment.