For someone that goes out of your way to learn more about your partners, in my opinion saying we aren't putting enough effort into relationships is kind of frustrating.
Maybe we aren't "trying" because of posts like these.
If I am working 70 hours a week it's never enough.
If I spend more time doing non work stuff with a female or learning more about her it's why am I not working to provide for her.
I just think there are two sides to evey story and while there are a lot of terrible guys out there, telling us we have to be perfect or try harder is crippling. Hell it's probably what helped contribute to me almost dying, but I guess I am just not serious enough...
I wish you the best of luck on your search for a relationship, but I find it disconcerting that you want men to be positive and to find happiness but then you scold them for not putting enough effort in, In my opinion it will lead to the exact opposite effect you want your article to have on men.
Trust me, dating for men can really suck just as much and I think it’s like swimming through a cess pool for both men and women.