A Letter To My Future Daughter
I hope you’ll exist someday.
Dear Future Daughter,
It’s me your father. The man who made you laugh even when you weren’t sad, who comforted you even when you weren’t crying, and who fed you even when you weren’t hungry. Okay, maybe I won’t do that last part.
I will write this letter to you in the form of a listicle because this is the future and the attention-span of the average human is lower than ever. I’ll be surprised if they read anything but the bullet points, to be honest.
Whether you read this while I’m still alive, long after I’m gone, or not at all because my genes cursed me with nothing but sons — I hope you take my words to heart.
#4 Be Whoever You Want To Become
If we go to the store for a toy and you go straight for the boy’s toys — I won’t ask if you would like a doll instead, because I want you to make your own decisions. I’m going to save for you to go to college, but if you feel college isn’t for you then it will go towards your inheritance. I’m going to save for your wedding, but if being married isn’t for you then that will also go towards your inheritance. Whether you strive to be a car mechanic, a doctor, or Captain Marvel — I will be your biggest cheerleader! (Cheerleader outfit optional.) I’d also be okay if you went the Meghan Markle route and married into royalty. If that’s the case please give me a chance to study up on British royalty.
#3 Go Wherever You Want To Go
The world is a big scary place sometimes, but I want you to see as much as you can possibly see as much as you possibly want. I was an introvert growing up, so I was too scared to go with my family to places like New York City. Unless your goal really is to stay wherever you grew up — don’t feel as if you shouldn’t leave your hometown. I promise to show you as much as I can while I’m still around, but just in case I go earlier than expected — promise me you’ll continue to see the world. However, don’t worry about carrying my ashes around because I don’t think I would be able to see much from inside an urn as a pile of dust.
#2 Feel However You Want To Feel
Whether you’re happy, sad, elated, or depressed — never feel as if you have to wear a mask. Never feel as if you need to “calm down” if you’re really happy. Never feel like you need to put on a fake smile for anyone. Don’t let anyone tell you that you’re annoying for being too happy. Don’t let anyone tell you to“get over it” if you’re too sad. The only person in charge of your emotions is you and you alone. Well, the only thing I ask is you act genuinely happy when you’re old enough to start getting socks from me on Christmas, but I promise that’s the only exception.
#1 Love Whoever You Want To Love
Just like how it felt when I met your mother — make sure the person you want to spend the rest of your life with fills your life with love and joy. I don’t care what country they come from, the color of their skin, or what they do for a living (okay, maybe not a career criminal). Also notice I didn’t specify gender because love is love, and I will be happy with whoever makes your face light up as much as I imagine it will when I get you your first car. (Also notice I don’t specify the type of car, because depending on our financial situation, it might be from a time when blackberry phones were a thing.)
I’m going to raise you to make smart decisions. I’m going to raise you to make the right decisions. Most importantly, I’m going to raise you to make the BEST decisions for yourself.
You’re going to make mistakes and you’re going to learn from them. Actually, I prefer you to make mistakes. I want to catch you lying to me about going out to the movies with your friends when you really went to a death metal concert because I want to teach you that you can be honest with me (after a weekend of being grounded of course). I want you to date that loser in high school that breaks your heart because I want you to rise up like a phoenix after the heartbreak (and after me breaking their legs) and learn what you want or don’t want in a relationship.
After you turn 18, you will be ready to enter the world as a young woman ready to make her own way. Never feel ashamed if you ever need to come back home. I’ll always be the one to catch you when you fall — not on a spiderweb where you are unable to get back on your feet, but on a trampoline. I’m going to help you bounce back up to your feet. (Well, maybe a trampoline wasn’t the best metaphor, because that implies you’ll keep falling and bouncing back up in different hilarious positions.)
Unfortunately, we all pass one day my love. Your mother and I won’t be here forever, but I promise we will love you with everything we have for every second we have left on the clock.