Pollyanna, the eternal optimist with an uncanny ability to find the silver lining in every cloud, is a beloved character from children’s literature. But let’s face it, her relentless positivity is not only unrealistic but also downright dangerous.
Pollyanna’s signature “glad game” involves finding something to be glad about in every situation, no matter how dire. Lost your parents and forced to live with a stern aunt? Be glad you have a roof over your head! Broke your leg and confined to bed? Be glad you have time to read! This forced optimism can be a recipe for emotional repression and denial, preventing individuals from processing their feelings and coping with adversity in a healthy way.
Moreover, Pollyanna’s cheerful outlook can be incredibly frustrating for those around her. Imagine trying to confide in someone about a genuine problem, only to be met with a chirpy “Well, at least…” response. Pollyanna’s relentless positivity can invalidate the feelings of others, making them feel unheard and dismissed.
Furthermore, Pollyanna’s “glad game” can create unrealistic expectations and set people up for disappointment. Life is full of challenges and setbacks, and pretending that everything is always sunshine and rainbows is simply not sustainable. When faced with real-world problems, Pollyanna’s approach can lead to disillusionment and a sense of helplessness.
So, while Pollyanna’s optimism may seem endearing at first glance, it’s important to recognize the potential harm of her toxic positivity. Real life requires a balance of optimism and realism, allowing us to acknowledge and process negative emotions while still striving for a better future.
-Bobby Fox, refusing to play the glad game.
