buddhas leave a trail of broken things on the way to the bodhi tree they step in shit they get un, non, mis anti-transcendent raging and throwing tantrums like children tied to their toys rapt attention attached eventually their purpose served things that can break fall away all the knots…

Dear New Dad, Your fear is welcome here is a place where you can lay it down just for these few lines that pain you feel in your chest is a new kind of love it is here to open you there is no way to resist it reframe it divert…

In about 3 weeks I will be on staff for a ManKind Project men’s weekend for the first time since 2013. I stopped staffing shortly before my wife and I became adoptive parents. …

maybe there is nothing new that can be said about a haunted house all men have one maybe it’s not the house but the man spirits in spite of best efforts stick around maybe it’s worth noting that when the haunted thing arrives unbidden mostly it wants nothing but to be…

I remember when I was ten or eleven being in my room not mine really I shared with two of my brothers there were three mattresses on the floor and two battered dressers and a closet it was on the second floor up the narrow steep stairs the ceilings were low…

What is the ‘Something’ that I should be doing? I see thousands of miles in every direction without moving or turning my head. There’s clear water in the Maldives. Bali is beautiful. And the graduates look stunning. Schooled. I see into the end game with every new tab opened and…

He cleans up after himself. He cleans up the planet. He is a role model for young men. He is rigorously honest and fiercely optimistic. He holds himself accountable. He knows what he feels. He knows how to cry and he lets it go. He knows how to rage without hurting others. He knows…

I hear you. But how about we wait until you’ve had a chance to smell a box full of kittens. How about we wait until you’ve been in the ocean again, holding for that big wave to catch you off guard and knock the wind out of you. And what…

GenXulinity I was born in 1971. I’m a cisgender heterosexual white man. Everything I say here is from my perspective. Results may vary. GenX is a transitional generation. From analog to digital. From outdoors to indoors From the Lone Ranger to Mr Rogers … and From Mr. Rogers to HeMan…