Live with Stubborn Intensity


I’ve been told multiple times over the last year that I seem like an old man. I’ve been told I need to live it up a little more and enjoy my life. News Flash: Not everyone who is dedicated to improving themselves is an old person. And who’s to say I’m NOT enjoying my life? I sure am.

The Change

Over the past year to year and a half, I’ve made some serious changes in my value system. I realized that life for me is only truly lived to its full potential if I utilize all the potential that’s stored inside of me. What set off this change? If you’ve heard my knock off TedTalk you’ll have an idea of what set this in motion. One day I was sitting in my dorm room listening to Eric Thomas. I had been listening to motivational videos for probably 2 years by this point. Each time I would get fired up and be ready to kill another day only to work hard for a couple hours. The flame would then die out until I listened to another video which fired me up again. At this point, I was partying and drinking 1–2 times each week and just going through the motions. I did well in school, I was making progress in the gym, but I just felt unfulfilled.

This time was different, though. I heard Eric say, and I’m paraphrasing, “People come to me all the time and say, ‘Eric, what’s wrong with drinking and smoking weed?’ And I always respond, ‘It’s not what’s WRONG with it, it’s what’s RIGHT with it.’” Boom. Light switch. Done Drinking. About a week later, I quit drinking and partying almost for good. Now I’ll still spend time doing these things but it’s rare. And I don’t regret it at all. I don’t feel that I’m missing out on anything.

It’s not what’s WRONG with it, it’s what’s RIGHT with it.

Like I said, my values changed. And maybe they didn’t even change. Maybe they just became clear. I was able to finally see what I need to do and who I wanted to be. Since then I’ve picked up countless books. I’ve started a business. I’ve joined a startup. I’ve started a podcast. I’ve listened to endless hours of podcasts. I’ve researched and followed successful individuals. I’m finally acting towards my goals. Now, I’m way off from where I want to be, but I’m headed in the right direction. I live life with a stubborn intensity that allows me to only engage in activities that are pushing me towards my goals. I occasionally do things that may not be perfectly on track but shit everyone needs time to refocus. I’m not work, work, work. There’s more to life than that.

Your Turn

All it takes is a realization that you’re not on the right path, but that you can be if you just take control. Stop giving into peer pressure and being a people-pleaser. As a recent guest once told me, ‘You can’t give what you don’t have.” So focus on being the best version of you. Once you’ve nailed this down, (although this work is never done) the value that you provide to the world will only grow. Live your life with a level of stubborn intensity, that says you will not fall off the path to your success.