Becoming Carelessly Addicted
I really want to elaborate on the characteristic of carelessness and how it can progress the addict to a rock-bottom. Carelessness is a component of addiction that is the key to plummeting to the “rock bottom”. When this trait kicks in, you can consider yourself at optimal speed towards it. It is incumbent to know how much it factors into losing a grip on reality. The addict will become careless of their relationships, consequences, and overall well-being. Addiction deepens more with carelessness than with justification and comparison combined. I feel it is a necessity to understand carelessness to understand an addict.
The definition of carelessness is as follows:
1. Taking insufficient care; negligent.
2. Marked by or resulting from lack of forethought or thoroughness.
3. Showing a lack of consideration.
4. Unconcerned or indifferent; heedless: careless of the consequences.
Doing drugs is careless within itself, but when addiction deepens so does the magnitude of carelessness. If you are a fifteen-year-old smoking into a “spoof” (which is a dryer sheet rubber banded to a toilet paper/paper towel roll) to mask the smell, this indicates you still care about the consequences. If there is a level of caring, you are not being careless in the truest form. An addict, believe it or not, comes to a point where they literally could not care less about their consequences. Let us go one by one through the definitions of carelessness and explain how they pertain to addiction.
1. Negligence — Addiction can force neglecting other responsibilities such as work or family.
2. Lack of forethought — Addicts do not think of long-term repercussions of their actions.
3. Lack of consideration — Addicts will not take into consideration how often they are using a substance. An alcoholic will say, “So I drink, so does 70% of America.” They are disregarding the fact that they are drinking a 750ml bottle in one sitting on a daily basis.
4. Carelessness of consequence — Addicts can only see the small (short-term) picture. Essentially, they see the moment. They cannot see further than using the substance. They cannot comprehend consequences that loved ones try to force down their throat until the consequences slap them in the face the moment they are happening.
All the aspects of carelessness intertwine, leaving the addict without a care in the world. I guess they have one concern, and that is being under the influence with their poison of choice. People cannot comprehend how their child used to care about life’s entirety and then suddenly have no care. The mind has not changed naturally; on the contrary, the drug (the metaphorical abuser) has changed it for them. The feeling, and, even more so, the chemical, morphs the addict into a different person. The person on drugs is now careless, and the drugs caused that. The carelessness makes the individual want more drugs. It is a terrifying cycle that blankets the addict’s true thoughts, morals, and life as a whole. This vicious cycle will negatively effect the addict’s well-being.
Let me explain by comparing this with cursing. When you are eight you rarely curse, if at all. When you are thirteen maybe you curse in certain instances, or even certain words. For example, maybe you will say damn or piss, but you would never say the “F word.” At the age of eighteen, your mouth may have no filter. This is precisely how carelessness is for addiction. An addict will typically start with no “hard drugs”, and a significant amount of thoughtfulness in their actions. When the world starts changing around them, they might try marijuana, but would never even contemplate doing a narcotic. In time, this same mindset can alter to become completely careless regarding the intake of harder drugs. Before an individual can even spot this change happening they could be doing several drugs, several times a day, with no care in the world.
So what does this do to deepen addiction? It simply is another, and powerful, justification process. In fact, this is the most simplistic justification you can possibly use. It is the justification that comes into play when no other justification is applicable. It is as easy as saying,
“I do not care.”
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