This is a really interesting perspective. And I have to say that I don’t feel particularly liberated by the “me too” movement either, even though I did my post. But my biggest concern is how these stories have brought up the idea that “silence is complicity.” Because people seem to be connecting the two, as if survivors staying silent are complicit…
While I totally understand that you may have had this trouble finding acceptance amongst some queer women, but it’s unfair to automatically apply that to a woman you don’t know. But have you considered that it’s intolerant to assume that ALL queer women are intolerant? I don’t think anything in her piece suggested she feels like that, and you should give her the benefit of the doubt.
Beautifully written. In reference to a book we read, a group of smart ladies and myself were discussing this idea that we’re hoping we’ll get to a point free from labels. Where, as you said, people love people, regardless of gender or other classification. And pieces like this that are so open and honest will help us to get there.
Wow, thank you for sharing this story. So glad you made it out safely, and it sounds like you are an amazing, fierce lady. But so sorry you’ve had to carry that horrible experience. But I know your story and so many others can help end this awful culture and cycle.
Okay, so you are blaming the victims for other victims? Let’s break this down.
Did you actually read Gwyneth’s story? She wasn’t famous when she was harassed. She was new to the business. And after she went to the meeting and was harassed, she told her boyfriend, Brad Pitt. Where’s your outrage that he didn’t say something…
So inspiring! As a pair of 30-somethings pivoting our careers into something more tech-based, we love hearing stories of amazing women like you. Definitely try not to let the Google thing get you down, because you’re a perfect example of how exciting a more diverse tech world can be! And (hopefully soon) will be!