Hard Pills to Swallow
When you become an adult you slowly start to realize that it’s not always exactly what you envisioned and that maybe you weren’t adequately prepared for the rude awakening that is adulthood.
This can make the transition a little bumpy. But if you’re looking for a smoother adjustment then heed my advice and get ready for some hard to swallow pills that will end up making your life far more easy in the long run.
1. Stop falling for potential!
See people for who they are and not what they “could be if”. Yes people can grow and change but anyone could be great if they put the effort in to be. Don’t fall for someone based on “if they only did ____ then they’d be perfect” instead look at them as they are right now. Are they ambitious right now, are they goal oriented right now, are they accountable right now? They don’t have to be a millionaire or anything like that in this moment but are they living life like someone who wants to achieve the goals they say they want to achieve?
If they say that they want success in their future but make no effort to make that happen for themselves, then that’s who they are and there’s not much you can do to change that. Think about this seriously when considering your next partner because you can’t actually change anyone and falling for potential instead of who they actually are could lead to massive disappointment and hurt in the future. Trust me.
2. No one is responsible for your happiness but you.
Don’t give someone else the power of controlling your happiness and definitely don’t expect someone to “make” you happy. Happiness isn’t a gift that others give to us, we give it to ourselves and it’s our responsibility to protect it and to create it.
If you put your happiness in someone else’s control then you leave yourself open to hurt and even manipulation. Other people come around in our lives to enhance our happiness, not to take control of it. Plus it’s an unfair burden to put on someone you love, including yourself.
3. Not everyone will like you.
Even against your best efforts, there are going to be people in this world that don’t like you. My advice? Get over it.
All you can do is your best. Do your best to move through your life with respect towards others, kindness, integrity and ambition. If you commit to learning from your mistakes and trying to grow everyday then you’re doing better than a lot of other people.
Everyone has their own life experiences that can make them bitter towards you for no reason and… well that has nothing to do with you. Don’t waste your time trying to make everyone like you because you will fail at it.
4. No one is obligated to be in your life.
and you are not obligated to be/stay in anyone’s life as well. I don’t mean to sound like a Debbie downer and that you should just always expect people to leave… BUT sometimes people do and it doesn’t always have to be beef.
It’s normal for people to grow apart which means that occasionally those long time relationships in your life that you thought you would have forever, may slowly drift away… and that’s okay.
Sometimes though, for whatever reason people may decide not to be apart of your life anymore… and no matter how much it may hurt or irritate you, you just have to accept it. Everyone has the right to do that, including you.
Also… some relationships in your life are meant to be temporary. Just something to keep in mind.
5. It may not be your fault but it is your responsibility.
This is more in reference to childhood traumas that were bestowed upon you through no fault of your own.
Unfortunately even though it’s not your fault, you can’t hold onto that forever and as an adult you need to learn to get a handle on your emotions and negative habits you’ve learned growing up. You don’t want to hold onto that negative energy because it’s gonna stop you from growing.
You have a responsibility to yourself and your happiness to figure out how to move past and heal from traumas that were forced on you so that you can live happily and peacefully. (hint: this may include therapy for some, and that’s perfectly okay).
Even though adulthood can come with its fair share of trials and tribulations, it’s also a wonderful privilege to be able to have freedom over the course of our lives.
These hard to swallow pills can change your life if you learn to accept them. You owe it to yourself to try and implement these changes in your life so that you can live as happily as possible.
Thanks for reading ❤
