Habits: The 2 Types

Habits can be fear-based or motivators rooted in benefit.

Here is how you can distinguish the two:

Toxic Habits (Fear-Based)

• When we are reprimanded, scolded, or judged repeatedly, habits are created to avoid such scrutiny. These are fear-based, toxic habits. I realized last night that I don’t even use my nice dishwasher, after a year of being with someone who would scold me for being lazy by using the dishwasher to wash dishes and not by hand (as if the creation of a dishwasher is obsolete). Washing dishes by hand is not the worst habit to have but, the birth of it, makes me want to change it.
• Comparing yourself to others is perhaps the most futile, toxic habit that many of us possess. Remind yourself it is not fair to YOU, to compare yourself to others. We are all different with different paths before and behind us. That friend that didn’t go to college and runs a successful business? Perhaps, they have generational wealth and capital you don’t possess. Even still, their journey may be harder than you imagine. You’re just a bystander in others’ lives. However, you control your life — so why waste time with comparisons when you can only control yourself?
• Practice what you preach. Your loved one comes to you doubting themselves because they didn’t get the job or into the program they wanted. You ENCOURAGE them, check in and remind them to keep pushing. However, when the same thing happens to you, you engage in negative…