What Exactly Makes Up A High-Quality Woman?

I throw the “High-Quality Woman” term around a lot, and I get a lot of people asking me what traits make a Woman “High-Quality”. Most guys simply think that it means that she’s good looking. But then again, most Men are idiots (Not you though. Winkie-face.)

It is a common misconception among guys that a decent Woman is simply good to look at. They don’t understand that those looks eventually fade and then you’re left with a relationship with zero Chemistry or Compatibility. Yeah, you try and “stay together for the kids”, but you always end up breaking up and causing more trauma to the children with your constant bickering and distaste for one another. Then she gets to take all of your money, thanks to the one-sided Family Court system.

This doesn’t mean you should settle for someone who you aren’t attracted to — that doesn’t work either. You end up living with a really cool roommate and having to satisfy your own sexual needs on the sly — Not cool.

So what traits make up a High-Quality Woman?

In a recent seminar (which is recorded here for you to watch — for free) I discussed the traits that make up a High-Quality Woman. While some of the Men disagreed on a few of these traits, we all agreed on 98% of them. So without further ado, here are the traits that I believe make a Woman “High-Quality”.

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No one likes to date a bum. No one truly enjoys having to babysit an Adult and have to carry them through life, while trying to navigate it for yourself, too. For me, it is important that my lady has some goals and ambition. This might be to change the world, this might be to have an amazing career, and this might also mean to raise some amazing children with the best upbringing as possible. Whatever it is, she knows what she wants and she goes for it. That is sexy to me, and most Women I talk to find it sexy when a guy has this trait as well.

There is nothing more painful than dating a Woman who lacks confidence. No one likes the timid Girl who can’t communicate like an Adult, or needs her ego to be massaged every second of the day. The thing is, we all have insecurities, but a High-Quality Woman recognises this and just owns it. A lack of true confidence demonstrates a lack of self-worth. And if she doesn’t like herself, who the hell will?

I have dated extremely attractive Women who had zero confidence, and I have dated Women who are considered “less-attractive” but had all the real confidence in the world. I would choose the latter every time. They are so much more fun to hang around with, whereas the low-confident hottie just tries to take every ounce of validation possible to fill her void of self-loathing. Totally not hot.

1. She is Loving and Caring.

You can’t have a relationship without this.

1. She Has an OPINION of Her Own.

Here’s a fun fact: EVERYONE has an opinion.

Even the quiet timid girl that you date has an opinion — she just doesn’t have the confidence to tell it to you. So for you over-bearing douchebags who like a Woman to keep her mouth shut (because it hurts your insecure ego), understand that it is necessary for all Humans to be able to express their needs in a healthy way. This doesn’t mean being overly opinionated, and it does involve being able to take on board a differing or conflicting opinion — Which brings me to the next point.

1. She Can Take Honest, Constructive Criticism.

You show me someone who gets offended by an opinion, and I’ll show you an insecure and unconfident human being.

You only get offended by something if you’re insecure about it. So it is important that they can take constructive criticism that is honest and well intentioned. As it is for you, too.

1. She is Accountable for Her Baggage.

Everyone has baggage. Everyone has insecurities, flaws, self-doubt, inferiority complexes, and things about ourselves we simply aren’t enthused about. The only thing that matters is what you do with it. Does she blame her problems on other people? Or does she take responsibility for her own world and take action to move beyond it?

1. She Takes Care of Herself.

Does she value herself enough to look after her health? Or does she eat and drink her problems away, with a blatant disregard for her own wellbeing? She doesn’t need to be a gym junkie, a fitness model or a Vegan Crossfitter who tells everyone about it every second of the day. But she does need to love herself enough to look after her health and take responsibility for her own mental and physical livelihood.

1. I Can Take Her Anywhere, Comfortably.

Nothing worse than going to an event with a Girl and she can’t mingle or communicate with the other people, even if she doesn’t know them. She eventually sits in a corner with her arms crossed, death-staring you until you are forced to leave and take her home. She then complains to you about being abandoned, when really all she needed to do was be an adult and open her mouth.

If you’re a social guy, or you need to mix it up with people and network, having someone try and drag you out of it due to their own insecurities won’t make you happy. But then again, having a girl who is the “life of the party” and gets obliterated and needs to be babysat is not good either. There is a fine line with that, but basically she needs Social Intelligence.

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In a nutshell, a High-Quality Woman is someone who has confidence, self-respect, social intelligence, emotional intelligence and a hunger for life. Interestingly, Women seek these traits in a Man too — So if you’re looking to attract a High-Quality Woman, you need to be a High-Quality Man.

That is why I created the Better Man System. It is an online training for Men who want to escape a low-quality life with low-quality Women, and achieve success in dating and in life. You can learn more about it in my free training by clicking here.

Originally published at www.brettellis.net on March 2, 2016.